I have been in the adult industry now for over 13 years and in that time this topic comes up ALL THE TIME! I guess its because at some point in every relationship the sex is spontaneous, fun and often. Over time life changes, whether it be financial stress, job worries, children, housework etc etc (you get my drift), sex becomes less of a priority. The other thing to remember is that sex is not always a necessary for some people, i know people who only have sex to reproduce, to them its the act of having children not making love. It doesn’t mean they are wrong it just means that’s their thoughts on it.
I have blogged about this topic a couple of times and whilst what I say is only my opinion the biggest thing I tell most people is to ask the question why? Why is your partner not wanting sex? Why are they not in the mood?
The reasons why can vary and therefore without getting to the bottom of the reason you may never know. A good Doctor/sex therapist can assist with getting to the issues that is creating this issue in your relationship. It may be a hormone imbalance, it may be self confidence issues, it may be that once he had sex with someone and they told him that he was a dud, who knows, but I would recommend getting your partner to a Dr. After that when all the results come back stating that there is no medical reason then try a therapist.
There are so many things you can do to spice up your love life, toys are a great tool and can add excitement and something different to your love making. Dress up, dressing up creates a fun way to get into a different character and explore each other using a different avatar. Dressing up also includes wearing nice lingerie or dressing up in your favourite dress/suit something that makes you feel sexy, handsome etc.
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