I hate sex!
Firstly the title doesn’t apply to me, it’s a saying that I hear quite often & it boggles my mind that anyone could hate sex if & when it is done right.
Let’s excuse anyone who has been sexually molested/raped because of they hate sec then it makes sense. However I’m taking about adults in living relationships that hate sex.
There are a number of factors that I feel would contribute to someone hating sex:
1. They find sex boring
2. Sex hurts
3. Sex feels like a chore
4. Sex is for reproduction not fun
If sex is boring then it is up to you to spice it up. This can be done in so many different ways including role play, costumes, toys or extended foreplay. Romance your partner before you initiate sex.
When sex hurts it is because of either a medical reason or a phycological one. In this case a visit to a trusted medical professional or sex therapist is definitely recommended.
If sex feels like a chore then you are doing it all wrong. Sex is meant to feel good, be fun & bring you closer together as a couple.
Whilst sex is for reproducing, it is also a way to get close and be intimate with someone you love.
If you hate sex then I have somethingI’d like you to do. Write down the reasons you think you hate sex. Write down what you expect to feel whilst having sex and write down how you think sex should be. Then discuss this with your partner and see where you both can come to an arrangement to meet both your needs. Good luck!